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In my clinic, or in calls whether video or regular calls from the comfort of your home, I can help you to find out what you want to feel like inside when you get to your end state, to your destination and are your true self once again.

It is only when we are in this sat of being our true selves that we can really help others and live our lives fully. The way I see it it is only then that you can plot a course to get there.

This may sound puzzling and contradictory but read on….

What I have found is that most people know how they want to feel when they have arrived at their ideal state and have very little clarity about how to get there. If the path was clear and straightforward then you would be there already.

Thankfully, that is where I can help you!  By reverse engineering from your ideal state and working backwards with you I can help you to decide on what steps to take today to get to the ideal state in a fraction of the time you imagined it would take you. 

In fact, for some people this works so well that by the end of the first 30 minute or one hour call they have already tasted what it feels like to be in their ideal state and already taken the steps they needed to reach it. Their lives are changed, their perspective is different, their energy restored and their willingness (willpower) to maintain this state is at an all-time high!

Maria was an American lady who booked her online sessions at my secure website https://padraigking.com

On her booking form she said:

“I hope you can re-energise me and help me to find my true self again. I’m drifting further and further away from the kind of life I want to be leading, I’m stressed out,  I’m snapping at the kids, losing patience with my husband and my job is driving me mad!  I know there is a better way to live but I need your help to find it, to find me, the real me”  

The first few minutes of our first full call were an outpouring of all the negatives that were happening in her life. In fact, I didn’t even get to say hello! However, when she finally stopped it was because she was completely spent, crying and “feeling useless, worthless and my life is not going anywhere!”

I invited her to cross her ankles. This tells your body in no uncertain terms that you are not running away from the problems that face you, there is no emergency that you have to rush off to deal with or to dodge away to! It indicates to your brain and body that you are somewhere safe for a while and can switch off the flight reflex that has kept you rushing about exhausting yourself)

Next, I invited her to breath in and out through her nose. After a few tissues were expended she was finally clear enough to breathe through her nose. Then I invited her to move her breath from her heaving chest down into her abdomen so that as she breathed in, her abdomen expanded and as she exhaled her abdomen contracted.

While this proved difficult initially for her, Maria soon got the hang of it.

Soon her breathing was more relaxed and I invited her to lengthen each breath to slowly breathe in over 4 seconds and exhale slowly over 4 seconds. I then explained that this slower and more relaxed breathing tells your brain and body that the emergency is over and you can begin to relax again.

I invited her to interlock her fingers and rest them on her stomach. 

I explained that this indicates to your brain and body that you are no longer hunting and gathering like our ancestors , that you no longer need to protect or defend yourself or you family or your possessions so the Fight Reflex can be switched off.

On this video call I could see that she was beginning to relax but every time her mind went quiet a negative thought, a fear or anger popped up and made her want to deal with.

She had said that she was feeling like a victim of everybody else’s actions, words and the beliefs they held snout her, their expectations and needs.

In reality she had been living impriioned in a belief system that they could not succeed without her, would need every help she gave them and she never ever feel that they appreciated her efforts to make life good, Easy or better for her family or co-workers. Over time she had given everything so now was coming to me feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, invisible and feeling totally empty inside.

We needed to change this and to get her to move from overwhelm and exhaustion quickly, quietly and easily.

I invited her to search on the roof of her mouth for a slightly ticklish point and once she found it to suck on it like she had a mint, a toffee or a piece of candy there. Then I explained that this point has special properties. Sucking on it as a baby helps you to feel relaxed, calm and peaceful within yourself.

Continued gentle sucking triggers your brain to produce dopamine, which is a chemical that soon triggers the production of serotonin which helps you to sleep.

This is one of the reasons that babies who latch on and suck effectively are happy babies.  Sadly those children whose tongues don’t reach the roof of the mouth are unable to get that level of satisfaction that helps him to be calm, comfortable feel safe and secure and settle down for a good healthy sleep.

(By the way, I also work in a hands on way in clinic with babies, children and people of all ages to release tongue ties and to reshape the roof of their mouth  so that their tongue can reach this trigger point on the roof of their mouth giving them that inner sense of security and satisfaction that we all need to feel happy, healthy and whole.   The difference is visible in minutes and the affect last for lifetime. To book a private clinic appointment simply click here.  )

Soon I invited Maria to close her eyes and relax her body so that her attention was not on stay upright, or holding her head up, but that she felt totally supported and could rest her head comfortably on the back of the chair.

Next, I invited Maria to remember a time when she was very calm, relaxed, felt safe and secure. Sometime in the past when she had felt really wonderful. I invited her to go back 5,10, 20 years or whatever it took to travel back to a moment when she felt that everything was perfect.

I invited her to picture that time on a large screen on the inside of her forehead. I invited her to check out all of the different colours, patterns and anything else that you could see from that time, from that place. I could see a smile beginning to form on her lips and continued to invite her to begin to hear once again the sounds that she could hear especially the sounds that made her feel so relaxed, so good, so peaceful, that everything was so perfect.

Then her smile was lighting up her entire face and her body was so much more relaxed. Soon it was possible to extend the memory to include the sense of smell and taste and to deepen their experience so I invited Maria to remember that special fragrance, smell, aroma, scent that she associated with that time.

With a deep inhalation, she drew in once again that fragrance and smiled even more happily.

It was possible to see the change that took place within her from her face and body language and soon she was spending time in that perfect place as though she had never left it.

Soon I invited her to notice that wonderful feeling that you had within her body that wonderful feeling of satisfaction and peace.  Soon I invited her to notice where that wonderful feeling was centered and to place the palm of one hand on that part of her body. Maria’s hand moved immediately to the centre of her chest, about 3 or 4 inches ( 10 cm) from her collarbones on her sternum.

[Afterwards, she described to me that she had experienced and deep heat warming or chest in that area at that time and told me about the fact that she could feel the heat radiating from her chest into her hand. ]

At this time, her face was radiant with happiness and deep satisfaction. Using a simple visualisation, I had helped her to reconnect to the part of her life well she had felt a perfect alignment between what she was feeling what she was seeing what she was hearing what she was smiling what she was doing and the inner peaceful self that we all have frequently lose contact with.

It seems to me that we are all born pre-programmed to live in harmony with ourselves, with others and in nature. This harmony seems to break out when we misunderstand our role in helping other people to achieve their full potential.

Certainly, a parent has to support and nurture their child but there is a natural boundary where the child needs to learn independence and the many other skills that will allow them to find happiness and satisfaction for themselves.  Whether it is the guilt of not being there 24 seven or the misguided desired to live out their own failed dreams through their children, many plans have fallen into the trap of the coming children pleasers.

If you wrap yourself around the mission of pleasing a child then you will never find satisfaction or peace. Maria had fallen into the trap of being a people pleaser not just at home with her husband and four children but also in the workplace. Every day she dug deep and she gave are all in terms of energy and time to support for colleagues and her family leaving her with no time to be herself.

When I asked her afterwards about the last time that she has experienced a sense of peace and calm and tranquillity like she had felt during our call she told me that she could not remember feeling this way as a teenager or an adult.

Just helping Maria to reconnect with this moment of perfection helped her to realise just how far she had gone away from her natural peace of mind. In a subsequent call I helped MARIA to become what I call “self-full”.

We are all familiar with selfish and we know people like Maria or have been giving selflessly for years, however, when you give selflessly you diminish yourself continuously to the point for you empty out your whole self and you become simply a shell. This was how many presented when she came on the first call. She had lost her kernel and was unable to replenish herself, restore herself or find any connections to her real self.

In our subsequent call I helped her to feel “self-full” once again and gave her simple strategies to help her to fill her full self with positivity, peace, patience and perseverance, power and passion.

 

 

Too shy to appear live on video she sent this by email:

" Thank you, Padraig King, for the wonderful work that you do. Before we worked together I was totally overwhelmed, exhausted and burnt out from attempting to please everybody and neglecting myself.

Through the 6 calls we've had together I have learned how to relax, let go of other peoples’ issues, protect myself from the negativity, deal with my own sense of inferiority and my constant need to be helping other people.

Now I am happy to help when somebody needs my help but I am also comfortable allowing them and facilitating them to find solutions to their own difficulties rather than rushing in and solving the problems for them.

After what seems like a lifetime of pleasing everybody else I am finally beginning to live my own life. I have taken back time for me each day to do those things that I had been putting off doing for years: I have started our classes and I am developing my skills with sketching and painting which was my passion as a child and to lecture and had been suppressed because I never had the time to invest in me.

I am also attending a writing class and I have typed and read for the glass the first two chapters of the book that was rambling about in my head for years. It appears I have a talent for writing that I had been neglecting to develop because I spent all my time and energy looking after people who were well able to look after themselves.

My children, who are all in their late teens or adults I’ve finally learning how to cook for themselves and I haven't cooked a dinner in over a month. Up till recently I came in at 6 PM and then had to can cook dinner while my husband and four sons sat watching TV or playing intently on their gadgets in deep silence.

Now the kitchen is alive with chatter and banter as everybody helps to cook the main family meal where there are no awkward silences and phones and gadgets are totally ignored except to check on a recipe!

Padraig, you have not just given me a new way of living, and I have brought this to my family and I will be recommending you to many of my friends who have become lost in the struggle.

I will always be grateful to you for what you have done for me and my family. Thank you for helping me to rediscover myself and to feel fully alive again. I am no longer struggling to survive but feel totally and gloriously alive".

 

Maria

Oregon

Effective May 25th, 2018 Padraig King updated his privacy policy in accordance with the European Union’s general data protection regulation (GDPR). Please read and click the button below.
PRIVACY POLICY

Last Updated on May 26, 2018. This Privacy Policy is effective immediately for Users after that date.

Padraig King Training and Consultant ("we," "us,") respect your privacy and are committed to protecting it through our compliance with this Privacy Policy. This policy describes:

• the types of information that we may collect from you when you access or use our Website - https://www.padraigking.com and other online services (collectively, our "Services"); and

• our practices for collecting, using, maintaining, protecting and disclosing that information.

This policy applies only to information we collect through our Services and in the electronic communications sent through or in connection with our Services.

DEFINITIONS

User
"User" or "you" or "your" refers to you, as a user of the Services. A user is someone who accesses or uses the Services for the purpose of sharing, displaying, hosting, publishing, transacting, uploading information or viewing pictures and includes other persons jointly participating in using the Services.

User Account
"User Account" is a separate part of the Website, containing User information required by Padraig King Training and Consultant during registration.

Content
"Content" will include (but is not limited to) images, photos, audio, video, location data, 'nearby places', and all other forms of information or data.

Padraig King Training and Consultant strives to offer its visitors and Users the many advantages of Internet technology and to provide an interactive and personalized experience. For these purposes, we, from Padraig King Training and Consultant, may use personally identifiable information - like your name, e-mail address, address, telephone number, etc., which are subject to the terms of this Privacy Policy. We, and we suppose you too, do not tolerate spam. We will therefore never sell, barter, or rent your email address to any unauthorized third parties.

1. WHAT INFORMATION DO WE COLLECT FROM OUR USERS?
Padraig King Training and Consultant may collect and use information of and regarding its Users. We collect only data which is essential to our operations and enables us to provide you with better user experience.

The information, through which the person may be identified, may include data, which the User voluntarily enters, uses or provides when using the Services of the Padraig King Training and Consultant Website, or submits when creating a User Account.Padraig King Training and Consultant collects and uses the information for the purposes, outlined in this Privacy Policy, as well as to offer new services to the User or to familiarize him with new functionalities on the Website.

We may also use certain performance tracking tools, such as Google Analytics. Through the use of Google Analytics we gather information regarding your behaviour and preferences when using our online platform.

We collect two types of information from and about our Users, including information:

• by which you may be personally identified; and/or
• about your internet connection, the equipment you use to access our Services and your usage details (i.e. your Internet Service Provider).

The information we collect on or through our Services may include:

i. User Account information: Personal information, such as your full name and other information you may provide with your account, such as your address and phone number, that may be displayed as a part of your User Account;

We collect this information in order to verify your identity and provide you with an individualised experience of our Services.

ii. Contact Information: Your contact information, such as email address and other ways of communication.

We collect this information in order to provide you with access to certain features of our Services and to inform you about relevant information concerning your use of our Services.

iii. Preferences: Your preferences and settings such as time zone and language;

We collect this information in order to enhance your user experience.

iv. Searches and other activities: The search terms you have looked up and results you selected

We collect this information in order to improve your user experience and provide you with more relevant content and Services.

v. Browsing information: How long you used our Services, which features you used, etc.;

We collect this information in order to analyse the behaviour of our users and improve our Services.

vi. Communications: Between you and Padraig King Training and Consultant support staff regarding the Services.

We collect this information in order to monitor the quality of our support staff and your communications with us.

vii. Transactional information: If you make payments or purchases through our Services, we may collect and store information about you to process your requests and automatically complete forms for future transactions;

We collect this information in order to enhance your buying experience.

viii. Location Data: We may collect information about your location if you have instructed your mobile device or computer to send such information via the privacy settings on that mobile device or computer. We may use the location data collected to enhance your use of the Services by providing you with relevant content and contextual advertising

2. HOW WE GATHER INFORMATION FROM USERS?
How we collect and store information depends on the pages you are visiting, the activities in which you elect to participate and the services provided. For example, you may be asked to provide information when you register for access to certain portions of our Website, create a User account, request certain features, such as e-mail newsletters or when you make a payment. Like most Websites, Padraig King Training and Consultant also collects information automatically and through the use of electronic tools that may be transparent to our visitors and Users. For example, we may log the name of your Internet Service Provider.

3 . WHAT WE DO WITH THE INFORMATION WE COLLECT?
Like other Websites, we collect information to enhance your visit and deliver more individualised content. We respect your privacy and do not share your information with anyone, except in cases when that proves necessary.

We will retain the information we collect from you for a period of maximum of 5 /five/ years, or less if it is no longer necessary for the provision of the Padraig King Training and Consultant services to you. After the expiry of this period we undertake to delete any information we have collected from you.

Aggregate information and information that does not personally identify you, may be used in many ways. For example, Padraig King Training and Consultant may combine information about your usage patterns on the Website with similar information obtained from other users to help enhance our site and Services (e.g., to learn which pages are visited the most or what features Users find the most attractive). This information does not include any information about you and does not allow anyone to identify you individually. We may use personally identifiable information, collected on the Website, to communicate with you about your registration and customisation preferences; our Terms of Service and Privacy Policy; services and products offered by or through the Website; and other topics we think you might find of interest. Personally identifiable information collected by Padraig King Training and Consultant may also be used for other purposes, including but not limited to Website administration, troubleshooting, processing of e-commerce transactions and other communications with you.

We strive to always protect your personal payment information. Payment transactions may be made via Paypal. We accept payments with all major credit and debit card providers, such as VISA, Mastercard and others. All payment card transactions made through our payment gateway are processed using a secure online payment gateway (Secure Socket Layer (SSL) technology) that encrypts your card details in a secure hosting environment. We do not hold your payment card details on the server.

4. DISCLOSURE
Padraig King Training and Consultant won't transfer information about you to third parties for the purpose of providing or facilitating third-party advertising to you. We won't sell information about you.

We may share your account information with third parties in some circumstances, including: (1) with your consent; (2) to a service provider or partner who meets our data protection standards; (3) when we have a good faith belief it is required by law, such as pursuant to a subpoena or other legal process; (4) when we have a good faith belief that doing so will help prevent imminent harm to someone. If we are going to share your information in response to legal process, we'll give you notice so you can challenge it (for example by seeking court intervention), unless we're prohibited by law or believe doing so may endanger others. We will object to requests for information about users of our services that we believe are improper. Certain third parties who provide technical support for the operation of our Website - our Web hosting service for example - may have access to such information.

5. RIGHT OF CONSENT WITHDRAWAL
You may withdraw your consent for collecting your personal information at any time. To do so, please contact us at padraig@padraigking.com.

6. CHANGE OR REVIEW OF INFORMATION
If you would like to review, change or delete personal data we have collected from you or you had submitted or permanently delete your account, please contact us.

For more information regarding the termination or deletion of your information, please refer to Section 8: Termination of this Privacy Policy.

7. ACCESSING & CORRECTING YOUR PERSONAL INFORMATION.
We take reasonable steps to accurately record the personal information that you provide to us, as well as any subsequent updates.

We encourage you to review, update, and correct the personal information that we maintain about you. You may request that we delete personal data about you that is inaccurate, incomplete, irrelevant for legitimate purposes, or is being processed in a way which infringes any applicable legal requirements.

8. SECURITY: HOW WE PROTECT YOUR INFORMATION?
We have implemented appropriate measures in the form of various technical, physical and other means, including, but not limited to measures regarding the security of our electronic systems and databases. These means aim at improving the integrity and security of the personal information that we collect and maintain. However, please be advised that even the best security measures cannot guarantee the full elimination of all risks. If we learn of any violation, breach or danger to our security systems breach, then we will attempt to notify you electronically so that timely and appropriate protective steps can be taken. Apart from informing you via e-mail, we may post a notice through the Website if a security breach occurs.

Your personal data safety is of utmost importance to us. We review and strive to improve our security measures on a regular basis.

If we detect a breach of our security measures, which has the potential of harming you as individual we will notify you without undue delay.

9. CONTROLLING YOUR PERSONAL DATA
Other Users may be able to identify you, or associate you with your account, if you include your personal information in any content you post or make publicly available.

For more information on how you can control your data shared with us, please see section 4, 5 and 6 of the present agreement.

If you have any questions regarding the ways you can control your personal data, please contact us at Padraig@padraigking.com.

10. TERMINATION
As mentioned, you may at any time review or change the personal information we maintain about you by contacting Padraig King Training and Consultant. Upon your request, we will delete your contact information and personal data from our active databases.

This Privacy Policy is effective until terminated by either party. If you no longer agree to be bound by this Privacy Policy, you must cease the use of the Padraig King Training and Consultant Website. If you are dissatisfied with Padraig King Training and Consultant, its content, or any of these terms, conditions, and policies, your sole legal remedy is to discontinue using the Website. Padraig King Training and Consultant reserves the right to terminate or suspend your access to and use of the Website, or parts of them, without notice, if we believe, in our sole discretion that such use is in violation of any applicable law, or harmful to our interests or the interests of another person or entity, or where Padraig King Training and Consultant has reasons to believe that their use is in violation of this Privacy Policy or the Terms of Use.

11. CHILDREN'S PRIVACY
Padraig King Training and Consultant does not knowingly collect personal information from children under the age of 13. If we learn that we have personal information on a child under the age of 13, we will delete that information from our servers. Padraig King Training and Consultant encourages parents to go online with their kids.

12. CHANGES TO THIS POLICY
Padraig King Training and Consultant reserves the rights to change this Privacy Policy at any time. Please check this page periodically for changes. Your use of the services after any such amendment or change in the Privacy Policy shall be deemed as your express acceptance to such amended/changed Privacy Policy and an assent to be bound by such changed/amended Privacy Policy. Information collected prior to the time any change is posted will be used according to the rules and laws that applied at the time the information was collected.

13. GOVERNING LAW.
This Privacy Policy and the use of the Website are governed by the laws of Ireland. The parties undertake to first try to resolve the dispute with by negotiation. If the parties fail to reach an amicable resolution through negotiation, Padraig King Training and Consultant agrees to submit the dispute to the competent Court of Ireland.

14. COPYRIGHTS.
The copyrights of our Website are the property of Padraig King Training and Consultant.

Texts, graphics, photographs, animations, videos and clips, visible on the Website are the object of copyright and are part of the intellectual property of Padraig King Training and Consultant. Those may not be reproduced, used, presented or represented without an explicit written permission by Padraig King Training and Consultant. Any distribution of files, obtained by the Users under the Terms and Conditions of the Website, or of parts of such files, constitutes a violation of the relevant intellectual property protection laws and is prosecuted by the law.

Nothing contained on this Website may be interpreted as granting a license or right of use as a trademark without the prior explicit written consent of Padraig King Training and Consultant.

15. MISCELLANEOUS
Padraig King Training and Consultant is controlled, operated and administered entirely within Ireland.

If you are accessing the Padraig King Training and Consultant Website from another jurisdiction, please be advised that you are transferring your personal information to Padraig King Training and Consultant Ireland and, by using the Website, you consent to that transfer and to abide by the applicable laws concerning your use of the Website and your agreements with us.

This statement and the policies outlined in this Privacy Policy are not intended to and do not create any contractual or other legal rights in or on behalf of any third party.

Padraig King Training and Consultant may provide a translation of the English version of the Privacy Policy into other languages. You understand and agree that any translation of the Privacy Policy into other languages is only for your convenience and that the English version shall govern your rights and responsibilities. In case there are any inconsistencies between the English version of the Privacy Policy and its translated versions, the English version of the Terms shall prevail.

16. CONTACT
If you believe Padraig King Training and Consultant does not adhere to this Privacy Policy, in order to address a question, to resolve a complaint regarding the Website or the Padraig King Training and Consultant Services, or to receive further information regarding the Services, please contact padraig@padraigking.com Padraig King Training and Consultant via email at Padraig@padraigking.com


Padraig King Updated his Privacy Policy